What does it mean to circle back and why is it important? Circling back creates a cycle of communication and connection that makes time for sharing successes and failures, problem solving, listening and being present. You are intentionally choosing to make communication a priority. This will build family connection. Connected families function better.
When you take the time to circle back:
- You are creating a consistent space for all members of your family to be seen and heard.
- You are modeling to your family that communication is a useful tool.
- You are showing your children/partner that you are invested in their lives.
When you circle back, you begin to talk about how the day went in general and then ask this question about your intention, “Tell me how you chose to love today?”
When this question is asked, each person shares how they navigated the Intention that day. When a person is sharing, everyone else’s job is to listen, listen, listen!
Tips for when and how to circle back:
- You can circle back one on one, as a family, or with the other adults in the house.
- You can circle back once a day, once every few days, or even once a week.
Tips for circling back when the conversation feels positive:
- Celebrate success
- Stay present with eye contact
- Praise effort
Tips for circling back when the conversation feels negative:
- Be aware of your facial expressions and body language
- Validate feelings - “That does sound frustrating/sad.” “That makes sense.”
- Ask - “Are you venting?” “Do you want me to take action/help?” “Do you want advice?”
Thank your family for sharing and don’t forget to encourage them. Ex: “You are doing a great job being 8!”
We'd love to hear about your circling back successes, please leave us a comment below.